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A BRIEF MESSAGE FROM VERTICAL VIEWER
Good evening to everyone out there in the blogger world. I trust you all had a great weekend, just a short note to inform everyone that I will be out the office for at least close to two weeks. So until we meet again, stay faithful serving the Lord, be the salt and light we were meant to be, be a witness for the Lord. Again let me just say; Thank You So Much For Your Prayers And Support. It’s hard to believe it’s been almost a year since I created Vertical Viewer, it’s been quite challenging to say the least but worth every moment of preparation. Trust me I know there are other blog site’s that put mine shame but I do the best I can.So until next month my friends, I bid you farewell.
ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTORS TO HAVING A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
“Building Blocks to a Stronger Marriage: Communication”
Intro.
1. Communication is a building block of any successful relationship: a. God communicates to us all through His Son, Heb 1:1-2; Acts 20:32. b. Children of God communicate with their Heavenly Father through prayer, Matt 6:9. c. Parents and children must talk with each other, Eph 6:4. d. Husbands and wives must communicate effectively to strengthen the tie that binds… 2. So, why do husbands and wives fail to effectively communicate? I. Reasons husbands and wives do not communicate effectively… A. They Begin taking Each Other for Granted. (Wasn’t always so) 1. Love does not assume or take for granted; it cherishes and delights in the one it loves, cf. SS 2:3; 3:1-4. 2. World says: “familiarity breeds contempt”; but God says get familiar and stay that way! Gen 2:21-23 (18) B. They want to Avoid a Confrontation. 1. Past conflict can prevent present communication, Prov 21:9, 19. 2. Can convince ourselves it “won’t do any good”; and, if we react toward each other in negative ways – we are right! (Col 4:6) 3. Break the cycle of conflict, silence and avoidance: a. With a soft answer, Prov 15:1-2. b. By stopping the arguing and reconcile, Prov 20:3; Matt 5:23-24. c. With a real commitment to listen to each other, Jas 1:19. d. By removing wrath from your heart, Prov 15:18 (29:22). e. By always thinking the best of each other, 1 Cor 13:5. C. They are Obsessed with their Own Interests, 1 Cor 13:5. 1. Sin of selfishness (no self-control, 2 Tim 3:3; Gal 5:23) Phil 2:4. 2. How/where we spend our time, money, interest equates to value, devotion, security and trust (Lk 12:15; Matt 16:26). a. Husband whose first concern is his own satisfaction is not following Christ, Eph 5:25 (1 Tim 5:8). b. Wife whose first concern is her own pleasure is not following Christ, Eph 5:22, 24 (Prov 31:27). 3. Solution: Concerted effort to be interested in what interests your spouse. Eccl 4:9-12 a. Do things together: Children, recreation, etc. b. Nurture your shared faith: Worship together, etc. D. They Feel that they are Being Manipulated. 1. Joke: “Husband is the head, but the wife is the neck that turns the head!” may be funny, but it describes a dysfunctional relationship that is not honoring God’s arrangement for marriage. Eph 5:33 2. Why does a husband feel like he is being manipulated? a. Maybe because he is; He is silenced into submission (compliance) by a domineering wife, cf. 1 Pet 3:3-6. b. Maybe because he is not leading firmly, decisively and consistently, cf. 1 Pet 3:6. (Sarah couldn’t obey if Abraham wasn’t leading!) 3. Why does a wife feel like she is being manipulated? a. Maybe because the husband only shows interest in her when he wants something for himself! 1 Pet 3:7 b. Contributes to resentment, distrust and animosity. 4. Communication is “sharing” – not controlling, cf. Rom 12:10. E. They Say They are too Busy to take the Time, Eph 5:16. 1. Communication takes a commitment of time, cf. Col 4:5-6. 2. “I have no time” can be an easy excuse for couples to close off their hearts from one another. 3. We have time to watch TV, play video game, ride the bicycle, take a walk, etc. – Time can be made to attend to your relationship by simply talking to and listening to each other. 4. Don’t be a Martha and miss your opportunity, Lk 10:38-42. F. They Don’t Want to Hurt the Other Person, Prov 27:5-6, 17; 28:23. 1. First, do you want to help your spouse? (Sometimes help hurts) 2. Second, are you willing to accept help from your spouse – even if it exposes your shortcoming, fault or sin? 3. Humble hearts are necessary in order to give correction to and to receive correction from our spouses! Rom 12:16 4. Solution: We must help each other know that we always have their best interest at heart, cf. Eph 5:26-27. 5. Goal: Strengthen each other and help each other go to heaven!Conclusion
1. A marriage without communication is like a car without fuel; it won’t go very far for very long…it will sputter and die! 2. Rom 12:9-13, 16: Communication will be the natural product of building our marriages upon sincerity and goodness (9), kind affection and honoring preference (10), diligent service (11), joyful hope, patient steadfastness and prayer (12), sympathetic giving and unity (13, 16).WANTED: PARENTS WHO WILL BRING THEIR CHILDREN UP TO LOVE GOD AND A DESIRE TO SERVE HIM
”Nurturing Children or Raisin’ Cain?”
Intro.
1. Request: Please do a lesson on raising children (scriptures) with love and discipline. 2. The question implies a link between discipline, love, & proper rearing of children. That linkage is proper (1 Ths. 2:11-12; Heb. 12:5-6, 10-11). 3. Children are our inheritance from God – Psa. 127:3 (Prov. 17:6). 4. Goal: Present our children to the Lord – Gen. 18:19; 1 Sam. 1:22; 2:11. 5. Heavenly Father knows best how to rear children. Listen to His word of wisdom, or we are liable to ‘raise Cain’ instead of rearing children! I. COMPREHENSIVE NATURE OF DISCIPLINE – Eph. 6:4. A. Instruction – cf. Prov. 1:8-9. 1. Teach about life; teach word of God, Deut. 4:8-10; 6:4-9; 11:18-19. 2. Training in righteousness (cf. Timothy, 2 Tim. 3:15). B. Correction – Prov. 3:12, 13:24; 22:15; 29:17. II. DIVINE GUIDANCE ON REARING CHILDREN. A. Insist that Your Children Obey You – Eph. 6:1-3. (Teach & correct) 1. “The thing that impresses me the most about America is the way parents obey their children.” (King Edward VIII, 1894 – 1972) 2. “There was a time when we expected nothing of our children but obedience, as opposed to the present, when we expect everything of them but obedience.” (Anatole Broyard) cf. Prov. 30:11 3. Jesus & His parents – Lk. 2:51. 4. Eli & his sons – 1 Sam. 2:12, 22-25, 29; 3:13. B. Praise as Well as Punish. 1. Make the punishment fit the offense (cf. Eli, 1 Sam. 2:22-24). 2. Punishment w/o praise will break a child’s spirit – Col. 3:21 (“to be disheartened, dispirited, broken in spirit”). 3. Be fair-minded & just. C. Give Them What They Need, Not Necessarily What They Want – Matt. 7:8-11. 1. “It is not giving children more that spoils them; it is giving them more to avoid confrontation. (John Gray, “Children Are From Heaven”) 2. Say “yes” when you can & “no” when you must! D. Be Consistent– 1 Sam. 2:12, 22; 3:13. 1. In teaching, correction (Follow through; Stay in control). 2. Practice what you preach (2 Tim. 1:5). E. Do Not Show Favoritism – Gen. 26:28; 37:3. -Recognize & respect individuality while remaining impartial. F. Work Together – Lk. 2:51 (cf. Gen. 27:5). 1. Children sense conflict between parents & exploit it! (Matt. 12:25) 2. Share & help each other with the children, the home, etc. G. Find & Develop the Child’s “Way” – Prov. 22:6. 1. Don’t try to make him/her into what you wanted to be, but weren’t. 2. Give direction & discipline fit for each – cf. Eccl. 2:3; 5:18-19; 12:1. 3. “The art of mothering is to teach the art of living to children. (Elain Heffner, O Magazine, May 2003) H. Set Godly Examples – Isa. 39:4; Prov. 4:1-4 (2 Tim. 1:5). 1. Love God (Matt. 22:37): Obey, worship, put Him first, etc. 2. Love man (Matt. 22:39): Honesty, fairness, kindness, mercy, etc. I. Pray for God’s Help – Judg. 13:8-9; Jas. 1:5-8 (Phil. 4:6-7). -Rely on God’s truth to direct you – Prov. 3:5-6. J. Be Patient. 1. Start early in life – 2 Tim. 3:15 (cf. Hannah & Samuel; Jochebed & Moses). 2. Stay the course – Prov. 19:18; 23:13-14; 29:15. K. Confess & Repent When You Sin against Your Children – cf. Jas. 5:16. -Parents sin against their children (Col. 3:21). Deal with it God’s way! L. Remember: The Responsibility & Accountability is Yours. 1. Seek counsel – cf. Tit. 2:4; Prov. 11:14; 15:22. 2. Filter the well-meaning advice, suggestions, recommendations of others through the sieve of truth & wisdom. 3. Beware of intrusive meddlers & meddling – 1 Pet. 4:15. 4. Everyone is an expert: “Before I got married I had six theories bringing up children; now I have six children and no theories.” (John Wilmot)Conclusion
1. Men are generally more careful of the breed of their horses and dogs than of their children.” (William Penn, 1644 – 1718) 2. Children deserve our careful attention (Prov. 29:15). 3. Use God’s word – not human theories & “wisdom” – to teach us to train up our children in the “training and admonition of the Lord.”PROV. 15:20 “A FOOL DESPISES HIS MOTHER”
A Mother’s Love
Intro. 1. Someone said, “A mother’s love is instinctual, unconditional, and forever” (unknown). Yet, there is evil in this world, and a mother’s love is not always “instinctual” (In US over 200 children/yr. killed by their mother, “Mothers who kill their Babies”, Clint Van Sandt, Newsvine.com). 2. Although most mothers would not dream of killing their children it should be noted that a mother’s love that pleases God is learned by instruction and admonition, Titus 2:4. (A mother who refuses instruction will not be a good teacher of her children!) 3. “A mother loves her children even when they least deserve to be loved.” (Kate Samperi, “Mothers”) The value of a mother’s love cannot be measured in currency, but in the moral character, wisdom and training she gives her children, Prov 6:20-24. I. A MOTHER PROTECTS HER CHILDREN. “A mother understands what a child does not say.” (Jewish proverb) A. The Nurturing of a Mother Lasts a Lifetime. -cf. Mary: From the cradle to the cross, she was there. B. Jochebed: A Mother’s Protection, Exo 1:22-2:10 (Heb 11:23). 1. She literally gave to get (gave up her child to save him). 2. A godly mother protects her children from hunger (with food), from ignorance (with truth), from selfishness (with charity), and from unbelief (with an obedient faith), Prov 31:15, 19-22, 25-28. 3. Manage the home and you protect him from loneliness and doubt (1 Tim 5:14). 4. Teach your child God’s word and you protect him from sin (Psa 119:9-11). 5. Set example of purity and you protect your child from evil (he learns holiness). cf. 1 Pet 3:1-4 * CHILDREN: Honor your mother for her protection; keep on listening to her; obey her and be blessed! Prov 23:22-25; 19:26-27; 30:17 II. A MOTHER PRAYS FOR HER CHILDREN. A. Faith in God is the Center of her Life, Prov 31:10, 30. 1. She trusts in God before herself, her husband and her children. 2. She follows God’s ways of motherhood, not the latest “fad” and philosophy on child rearing. B. Hannah: A Mother who was Heard of God, 1 Sam 1:10-12, 20. 1. Pray always for your children (1 Ths 5:17; Jug 13:8). 2. Prayer shows you trust God to know what is best for your children! * CHILDREN: Live in a way that answers her prayers! Prov 17:25, 21; 15:20 III. A MOTHER PREPARES HER CHILDREN. [“No influence is so powerful as that of the mother.” (Sarah Josepha Hale) “A good mother is worth hundreds of schoolmasters.” (George Herbert)] A. A Mother Prepares her Children for Many Things, Including… 1. For life (remember the 1st day of school?). 2. For love (by teaching…by showing it). 3. For faith (by living…by example…by teaching). B. Bible Mothers Who Prepared their Children: 1. Hannah, 1 Sam 1:23-28; 2:19. 2. Mary, Lk 2:48, 51-52. 3. Eunice and Lois, 2 Tim 1:5; 3:15 (Acts 16:1-2). * CHILDREN: Accept your mother’s preparations and thank her for all she does for you! Prov 1:8-9; Luke 2:51-52 Conclusion 1. Do not “rob” your mother of the honor she is due for the good things she has done for you; Do not despise her by rejecting the protection, prays and preparations she gives you every day! Prov 28:24; 30:11 2. What a debt we owe our mothers! 3. Give honor to mothers by being true to Almighty God, who gave motherhood to the world, and who gave us our mothers! 4. A fool despises his mother, Prov 15:20.A MESSAGE TO ALL OF OUR GRADUATES BOTH PAST AND PRESENT
GOD’S ADVICE TO OUR YOUNG GRADUATES
Intro. 1. The state of our youth (Socrates, c. 400 BC; sermon in AD 1274). 2. Young people are facing & making choices that will stay with you for the rest of your life (education, dating/marriage, drugs, alcohol, gangs, etc.). – cf. Deut. 30:15 3. Most important decision you can make is to serve God. 4. Eccl. 11:9-12:1 – Wise advice to young people (any age). -[Three R's for educating young people.] I. REJOICE IN YOUR YOUTH – 11:9. A. Being Young Is A Blessing From God – cf. 12:3-8. 1. Strength – Prov. 20:29. (cf. 1 Sam. 17:35-37; Psa. 27:1) 2. Adventure, new things to learn, explore, experience. B. God Wants You to Enjoy Being Young! 1. Rejoice – “To be glad, to cheer up, be happy” – Pursue wholesome pleasure – 3:12-13, 22; 5:18; 11:8. 2. Remember: Something does not have to be sinful/wrong for it to be fun! (Smoking, drinking, violence, dirty jokes…) C. God Wants You To Know That You Will Answer To Him For Your Conduct While You Are Young. 1. Chose your activities knowing they will be judged. 2. Cf. Parents fill role of judge for a time (teach the lesson). 3. God sees all / judges all [you will answer for all]. 4. Some grown-ups do not want to put this responsibility upon their children (or themselves) — But God already has! a. Do you understand sin? Is there sin in your life? What will happen to you if you are not saved from your sins? Who Jesus is? What He did for you? What should you do for Him? b. Accountability means you are responsible & that you will answer for your conduct. – 2 Cor. 5:10; Eccl. 12:14. II. REMOVE THE CAUSE OF SORROW: SIN – 11:10. A. Being Young Is Not An Excuse To Sin. 1. Sin brings spiritual death/present difficulties. 2. Find genuine joy in your youth by removing evil which causes pain & sorrow – cf. Lk. 2:52. 3. Being young is not completely satisfying (“vanity”). B. Remove Sin From Your Life (The Cause Of Sorrow) – Psa. 119:9. (We all sin — it is what we do about it that makes the difference!) 1. Become a Christian (H-B-R-C-B). 2. Live for Jesus – Be faithful (Matt. 7:21). 3. Run from sin & to good – 2 Tim. 2:22. 4. Be careful of the friends you choose – Prov. 1:10-16. -2 Corinthians 7:1- III. REMEMBER GOD – 12:1. A. Think About God Now…Today And Every Day! – Prov. 3:1-2 1. Joseph – (Gen. 39:1) – At 17 (37:2), he remembered God though in a far away land! 2. Samuel – (1 Sam. 3:10) – As a child he was ready to hear God speak. 3. David (1 Sam. 17:33, 37) – He remembered God’s power to save. (Great faith). 4. Josiah (2 Chrn. 34:1-3); At 16 he began to seek God & aggressively combat sin. You can seek God & defend truth, too. 5. Daniel & his companions (Dan. 1:8-16) – Remembered it is more important not to defile themselves than to go along with the crowd. 6. Timothy (2 Tim. 4:12) – Remembered to set an example of godliness from his youth up. 7. Jesus (Lk. 2:49) – Always remembered to obey God. B. Things That Will Help You Remember God: 1. Make up your mind…Now! – Josh. 24:15 2. Learn the Bible – Rom. 10:17. 3. Obey God – Heb. 5:9 (Jesus saves those who obey). 4. Pray – 1 Ths. 5:17. 5. Praise (worship) God – Psa. 148:12-13. 6. Eccl. 12:1 – You are setting a pattern for the rest of your life right now! Conclusion 1. Eccl. 11:9-12:1 – Youth are to rejoice in all good things that give the heart true happiness (v. 9). a. Put aside sin because it interferes with true joy (v. 10). b. Know that only by remembering God while you are young will you find true happiness throughout life (v. 1). 2. Eccl. 12:13 – This is your duty, too! Citations THE STATE OF YOUTH “Our youths love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority—they show disrespect for their elders and love to chatter in places of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when their elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up food, and tyrannize teachers.” (Attributed to Socrates, c. 400 BC) Attributed to SOCRATES by Plato, according to William L. Patty and Louise S. Johnson, Personality and Adjustment, p. 277 (1953) — “The world is passing through troublous times. The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint. They talk as if they knew everything, and what passes for wisdom with us is foolishness with them. As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behavior and dress.”
Intro. 1. The state of our youth (Socrates, c. 400 BC; sermon in AD 1274). 2. Young people are facing & making choices that will stay with you for the rest of your life (education, dating/marriage, drugs, alcohol, gangs, etc.). – cf. Deut. 30:15 3. Most important decision you can make is to serve God. 4. Eccl. 11:9-12:1 – Wise advice to young people (any age). -[Three R's for educating young people.] I. REJOICE IN YOUR YOUTH – 11:9. A. Being Young Is A Blessing From God – cf. 12:3-8. 1. Strength – Prov. 20:29. (cf. 1 Sam. 17:35-37; Psa. 27:1) 2. Adventure, new things to learn, explore, experience. B. God Wants You to Enjoy Being Young! 1. Rejoice – “To be glad, to cheer up, be happy” – Pursue wholesome pleasure – 3:12-13, 22; 5:18; 11:8. 2. Remember: Something does not have to be sinful/wrong for it to be fun! (Smoking, drinking, violence, dirty jokes…) C. God Wants You To Know That You Will Answer To Him For Your Conduct While You Are Young. 1. Chose your activities knowing they will be judged. 2. Cf. Parents fill role of judge for a time (teach the lesson). 3. God sees all / judges all [you will answer for all]. 4. Some grown-ups do not want to put this responsibility upon their children (or themselves) — But God already has! a. Do you understand sin? Is there sin in your life? What will happen to you if you are not saved from your sins? Who Jesus is? What He did for you? What should you do for Him? b. Accountability means you are responsible & that you will answer for your conduct. – 2 Cor. 5:10; Eccl. 12:14. II. REMOVE THE CAUSE OF SORROW: SIN – 11:10. A. Being Young Is Not An Excuse To Sin. 1. Sin brings spiritual death/present difficulties. 2. Find genuine joy in your youth by removing evil which causes pain & sorrow – cf. Lk. 2:52. 3. Being young is not completely satisfying (“vanity”). B. Remove Sin From Your Life (The Cause Of Sorrow) – Psa. 119:9. (We all sin — it is what we do about it that makes the difference!) 1. Become a Christian (H-B-R-C-B). 2. Live for Jesus – Be faithful (Matt. 7:21). 3. Run from sin & to good – 2 Tim. 2:22. 4. Be careful of the friends you choose – Prov. 1:10-16. -2 Corinthians 7:1- III. REMEMBER GOD – 12:1. A. Think About God Now…Today And Every Day! – Prov. 3:1-2 1. Joseph – (Gen. 39:1) – At 17 (37:2), he remembered God though in a far away land! 2. Samuel – (1 Sam. 3:10) – As a child he was ready to hear God speak. 3. David (1 Sam. 17:33, 37) – He remembered God’s power to save. (Great faith). 4. Josiah (2 Chrn. 34:1-3); At 16 he began to seek God & aggressively combat sin. You can seek God & defend truth, too. 5. Daniel & his companions (Dan. 1:8-16) – Remembered it is more important not to defile themselves than to go along with the crowd. 6. Timothy (2 Tim. 4:12) – Remembered to set an example of godliness from his youth up. 7. Jesus (Lk. 2:49) – Always remembered to obey God. B. Things That Will Help You Remember God: 1. Make up your mind…Now! – Josh. 24:15 2. Learn the Bible – Rom. 10:17. 3. Obey God – Heb. 5:9 (Jesus saves those who obey). 4. Pray – 1 Ths. 5:17. 5. Praise (worship) God – Psa. 148:12-13. 6. Eccl. 12:1 – You are setting a pattern for the rest of your life right now! Conclusion 1. Eccl. 11:9-12:1 – Youth are to rejoice in all good things that give the heart true happiness (v. 9). a. Put aside sin because it interferes with true joy (v. 10). b. Know that only by remembering God while you are young will you find true happiness throughout life (v. 1). 2. Eccl. 12:13 – This is your duty, too! Citations THE STATE OF YOUTH “Our youths love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority—they show disrespect for their elders and love to chatter in places of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when their elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up food, and tyrannize teachers.” (Attributed to Socrates, c. 400 BC) Attributed to SOCRATES by Plato, according to William L. Patty and Louise S. Johnson, Personality and Adjustment, p. 277 (1953) — “The world is passing through troublous times. The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint. They talk as if they knew everything, and what passes for wisdom with us is foolishness with them. As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behavior and dress.”